Time for our next guest post from an NYU grad student. Please welcome the musings of Anna Saxon:
Whatever happened to a man calling to ask you out on a date? Or showing up at your apartment with flowers to express his feelings? Now, men text you to ask you out and only buy flowers when they’ve done something wrong or your grandmother died.
Not only that, but a man showing up at your apartment now is considered creepy or an invasion of space. Now the things that used to be second nature to a man are considered above and beyond what’s necessary.
The birth of social media has broken down barriers like knowing about someone’s past and created new ones around intimacy. People seem to think they know a person because they stalked their Facebook profile or texted back and forth conversations for a week. Information that normally needs to be gained from a person through discussion is now easily accessible on the internet.
Essentially, technology has taken the work out of dating. Social media give us all the useful information needed, set us up on dates, and even provide us with the Facebook “poke” button to handle our flirting.
Social media has changed the landscape of many things in modern day, removing the intimacy from the way relationships begin, end, and operate. Maybe the solution is: men, put your phones down, minimize Facebook, stop by the corner bodega and go knock on her door.